Women keep a special corner of their hearts for sins they have never committed.
—Cornelia Otis Skinner
There are many circumstances under which a modern woman might decide that having a lover would increase her quality of life and would bring her a great deal of joy and satisfaction. It does not follow, however, that this is a decision that would be right for all women all of the time. At least three kinds of women will not be interested in the prospect of taking a lover: the woman with homophilic tendencies, the contented celibate wife, and the (presumably contented) wife in a traditional marriage.
Some women who are seeking a lover are not seeking a man at all but are instead looking for another woman. The sexual revolution and the new permissiveness have made the lesbian option an increasingly acceptable alternative to traditional marriage. Some women may be exclusively homosexual. Others who are basically heterosexual may, under special circumstances, find themselves in what amounts to a homosexual encounter. Or they may wish to have a woman lover in addition to a husband or male lovers. However, the focus of my blog happens to be on picking a lover who is a man. It may well be that many of the same principles would also apply to picking a lover who is a woman. The examples in my posts happen to be male oriented: their application is a matter of personal preference and taste.
To borrow a slogan from another context: “Sometimes the best man for the job is a woman.”
- Single Women May Now Seek Lovers and Not Husbands (pickingalover.wordpress.com)
- What is Traditional Marriage Anyway? (wordofawoman.com)
- The Importance of Being Understood: The Lover as Therapist (pickingalover.wordpress.com)
- Why Women are Skipping Marriage and Leading the Single Life (prfire.co.uk)
- The Eyes of Love (psychologytoday.com)