In real life, women are always trying to mix something up with sex—religion or babies or hard cash; it is only men who long for sex separated out, without rings or strings.
—Katharine Whitehorn, Man’s Ideal Woman
Back in 1913, H. M. Swanwick speculated in The Future of the Woman’s Movement that women of the future would have men on only honorable terms—“love and liberty and mutual service”—or would go without. Nearly a hundred years have now passed and the projected future has presumably arrived, but many women are still settling for other terms as well. Many women, but not all of them.
If you can, pick a lover because he is the kind of man who turns you on and for no other reason. If you can pick such a lover, then determine the time and the place where you will make love. If you can pick such a lover, then share with him a mutually responsive and guided experience. If you can do all this, then you have a chance to enter the erotic world in the full sense of the phrase. And if you are very lucky, then you have a chance to explore the other limits of the realm of the senses.
If you think sex is not all that wonderful, then you’re not doing it with the right man.
- Don’t Be a Working Girl (pickingalover.wordpress.com)
- The New Courtship (pickingalover.wordpress.com)
- Study: Sex outranks other joys of life (cbsnews.com)
- On Scoring and Seduction (pickingalover.wordpress.com)
- Survey: Sex Makes Adults Happier Than Having Children (atlanta.cbslocal.com)
- Whatever happened to the joy of sex? One in three women feel depressed after making love (thisismoney.co.uk)