Loneliness is never more cruel than when it is felt in close propinquity with someone who has ceased to communicate.
—Germaine Greer, The Female Eunuch
Single people are not necessarily socially isolated. If they live by themselves, they may spend a considerable amount of their time in solitary pursuits, but they do not necessarily feel lonely. Even the divorced or the widowed, who were once used to someone sleeping on the other side of a big king-size bed, are not necessarily lonely in their daily routines. They may have many activities, many friends, and many options. Often, they have social schedules, which are almost too crowded with meetings and entertainment.
When single people are lonely, and they often get lonely on national holidays or with Sunday morning coming down, they may have a fantasy of getting married at some point, so they need not be lonely anymore. It comes as a shock for them to discover, or perhaps to rediscover, that being married is no safeguard against loneliness. In fact, it sometimes makes it worse. According to Gloria Steinem, “The surest way to be alone is to get married.”
- “the most terrible poverty is loneliness, and the feeling of being unloved” (wsj2day.com)
- Loneliness is not solitude (randau.wordpress.com)
- Aloneness vs. Loneliness (tazromagna.wordpress.com)
- Being Single Can Be Lonely (pickingalover.wordpress.com)